I often hear people say “it’s ok in moderation” when they rationalise their continuation of nonconstructive habits. This happens even when they have said they have wanted to change. For example, I’ve heard “It’s ok, I can still have a treat from time to time” from people who keep saying they are trying to lose weight.
Losing weight and getting in shape comes at a horrible price – your clothes stop fitting.
This is a terrible burden to bear. It’s hard to justify the cost of a few pieces of clothing to feel, function and look better.
Right?
In a similar vein as to why all people only act selfishly, I’d like to suggest the following:
Anything that anyone does is about them. It’s never about you.
You are selfish. So is the person next to you. We are all selfish.
Don’t believe me?
Think about it – everything that you do is done because you are hoping to satisfy some kind of need or desire. Acts of selfishness surround us. Some are obvious and some are not.
How do you get better at having difficult conversations? Simple.
Have them. Learn from them. Improve.
That’s it.